So, you did the impossible. You got a date. YAY! Go you! Pop the champagne! Throw around some confetti! But you know what’s even harder? Getting a second one. You might have gotten the first one from the help of a dating app or a friend, but nobody but yourself can help you get a second one. So you need a game plan, and here are a few pointers to add to it.
Be Confident
If you believe you’re amazing and worth a second date, so will the person you’re on the date with. Don’t be cocky though. That’s just obnoxious and will guarantee to make the other person end the date early. And think about it. Isn’t someone who believes in themself so much hotter than someone who is insecure about everything? YES. Nobody likes a Debbie Downer.
Have Fun
Get it through your head: this is NOT a job interview. And if this person is a total dud and acting like it is one, maybe you shouldn’t be going on a second date with them anyways. It’s normal to be nervous, but you should be having fun. That’s the goal. Don’t probe them with questions, let things flow. You’ll get your serious answers from them over the course of time if you just chill out. Everyone wants to be with fun people, so show them you know how to have a good time.
Pay attention to Your Body Language
Body language is everything. When you’re nervous, you might start talking really quickly (or talking less) or fiddling with your hair or God knows what else. Sometimes your date will take it as a sign that you’re not interested. Don’t let that happen. Pay attention to what you’re doing so you don’t give off bad signals. And there are a few things you can do. Remember to smile a lot, talk at a normal pace, lean forward when they talk, make eye contact, and open your body to them.
Have a Thoughtful Conversation
You are supposed to be having fun, but you also need to get something out of the date. First dates can be so boring if you only ask questions like, “What do you do?” and “Where are you from?” You won’t get to know someone’s personality from questions like that. Try having a meaningful conversation with the person you’re on a date with. They want to get to know you too (hopefully). Don’t be afraid to talk about something somewhat personal (within reason) just to get the ball rolling.
Talk About Future Plans
By the end of the date you should know something about the other person. If you clicked and found out you both like the same things, you should make plans to do those things together. For example, do you like the same band? Is that band coming to town? Why not go together? Do you both love Italian food? Do you know of a great Italian restaurant in town? Why not plan out a night to meet up there?
First dates can be a total mess, but they can also be super fun…if done right. And if you want a second date, you’ll probably want to keep these tips in mind (just a suggestion).
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