Being attracted to someone who exudes qualities and habits that are the opposite of you can be very intriguing, especially in the beginning of the relationship. It’s exciting and different. They spice things up and challenge you. It’s mostly endearing when the addictive serotonin, oxytocin and dopamine hits are firing on all areas in your brain. But can opposites attract long-term? It all comes down to what the opposite qualities are and if you’re both willing to make compromises and commit to accepting your partner for who they are. It’s also beneficial to search for ways your partner’s opposite qualities may help both of you while navigating your differences.
Obviously there are always exceptions to every rule. But, for now, what opposites can succeed and how? Below are some examples of how opposites attract.
The Spender and the Saver
Compromise will definitely be a huge deal in this dynamic, as well as a genuine understanding of why your partner is a particular way with money. The relationship between these two will succeed as long as there is actual money to be spent by the spender. There are clear wins for both parties in this dynamic. The spender learns a deeper level of money consciousness, and the saver gets to perhaps loosen up and live a little rather than constantly being in a scarcity mentality.
The Extrovert and the Introvert
The extrovert and introvert really need to adjust to taking one for the team. Sometimes, the introvert will have to step out of their comfort zone and say yes to events, even though they want to stay home. On the other hand, the extrovert will have to be willing to say no to some of their extensive invites. Another way to make this dynamic work: each person must be okay with one staying in while the other goes out on occasion. As always, both must have a genuine understanding and acceptance of how the other person is wired.
The Optimist and the Pessimist
This is a hard dynamic to navigate in a romantic relationship, but it is possible. The pessimist and optimist will need to be genuinely self-aware about their negativity and positivity. It’s easy to notice how annoying your partner is when they’re the opposite of you. But in this particular case, the two must acknowledge their glass half-full, half-empty perspectives and recognize that some skepticism or worry isn’t always a bad thing and being the most positive person in the room all the time might be delusional.
The Night Owl and the Early Morning Riser
This comes down to making the most out of the time that you are spending together. This dynamic should consciously connect in the shared time they’re awake. It’s important to respect each other’s reasoning and desires for opposite sleep patterns. Keep in mind that this dynamic is different from the partier and the non-partier, which typically doesn’t work. Maybe the night owl just likes to stay up late watching movies, while the early morning riser works best in the morning hours. It’s important that these two support and understand each other’s schedules.
The Mess-Maker and the Neat Freak
Keeping things neat and tidy can never hurt anyone. One may argue that neither does a mess, but if it’s important to the neat freak that you try your best to keep things in order, would it really hurt you just to try? On the other hand, if you are a neat freak and can’t stand the mess your partner is creating, you’ll have to accept being the overall straightener and manage your mind around your partner accordingly. Think of it this way: if your partner satisfies you in every other way, and their messiness/neatness is their most annoying trait, you’re pretty lucky.
Compromise and a sincere desire to keep each other happy without sacrificing who you are will always be key when opposites attract. It may seem difficult at times, but it is possible to make it work.
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