At times life seems to catch up with us and sometimes it can be due to not setting boundaries. We go through our lives trying to please others, keeping our head down, and letting toxic people stay in our lives because that’s what works. But after a certain amount it can take a toll on our mental abilities, and our lives as a whole. So, we’ve outlined some boundaries to set to help live a healthier, happier life.
You can say “no” (or “yes”) to others without feeling guilty
There are so many reasons why we say yes when we want to say no. We might be worried about rejection or what others will think of us. If we are conflict avoidant, it might seem easier to just go along with things to get along, but in the long run, denying your truth is a one-way ticket to being bitter.
You have the right to make mistakes, course correct, or change your mind
Many of us feel once we make a decision, whether it’s in a relationship, our careers, or a simple “yes” such as walking a friend’s dog, we’ve got to stick with it. You have the right to change your mind. Not every choice is a life sentence.
You have the right to express and honor all of your feeling if you want
Being fully expressed is part of being great at boundaries, but it also means you get to choose what you share, when you share, and with whom. You are not obligated to share or confess all of your feelings with everyone. You have the right to be private whenever you choose.
You have the right to voice your opinion, even if others disagree
If you’re a peacekeeper or a people-pleaser, it can be hard for your to share your opinion if others disagree. Again, privacy comes in here. Just because you have the right to, that doesn’t mean you have to share all of your opinions with someone who is aggressive or abusive. You have the right to talk true with it’s right for you.
You have the right to be treated with respect, consideration, and care
The way others treat you begins with your relationship with yourself. When you hold yourself in high regard and prioritize yourself, others will follow your lead. If you’re overworking, over-functioning and over-giving, chances are you will attract people who will expect you to keep doing that. Start by treating yourself with the respect, consideration, and care you deserve and set that bar high.
You have the right to determine who has the privilege to be in your life
Imagine your life as a VIP section, and you are the only person with the guest list. You are the one who decides who gets the privilege of your company, your time, and your energy. If you don’t learn how to be the bouncer in your VIP section, you might find yourself constantly tiring yourself out and inconveniencing yourself for anyone who wanders past the velvet rope and plops themself down. Not everyone deserves a 24-hour backstage pass to your fabulous life. You’re the one who makes this choice.
You have the right to communicate your boundaries, limits, and deal-breakers
Only you know what’s right for you with respect to these things. What’s okay for your? What are your non-negotiables? Getting clear around your limits and needs is the first step to asserting yourself and communicating your boundaries in a healthy way.
You have the right to prioritize your self-care without feeling selfish
There are many myths and limiting beliefs around self-care. So many of us have been taught that we should prioritize other people first and put ourselves last. But when our self-care isn’t solid, we can end up feeling depleted, exhausted, angry and resentful. The reality is, taking great care of ourselves is the foundation for success in our relationships, careers, and entire lives. When we prioritize our self-care, we are at our best and give from a place of love and abundance rather than lacking one.
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